If you're single and your friends keep trying to hook you up, this is for you. If you attend family functions and they constantly ask you about your romantic life and babies, this is for you.
If you're always trying to hook all your friends up so that they're not alone, this advice is for you too.
Enjoy :)
Click the link: I'm Single, Do I Have to Mingle?
For years I've wondered why we feel the urge to compare our Ex's new person to ourselves. Why?
We compare body type, facial beauty or attractiveness, style of dress but taking it further we do the whole social media search. I'm telling you, the FBI or Secret Service could hire some of us with the serious super sleuthing skills we possess! You KNOW you've done it, haha, I'll admit I've done it too. Men, don't laugh because you do it too and some of you are probably in the process of doing it right now!
Again, I ask why? Does it really matter who they're with after us? Maybe it's a matter of closure or us wanting to know where we didn't measure up? Should we improve? There are many questions here but the main one I will focus on is:
"Why tear the NEXT down just because you're the EX?" Truth is she/he could be the most gorgeous person EVER or look like the Blobfish- it does not matter! What matters is that they're NOT with you (us). I don't mean to be harsh but what I want us to understand is that it's not necessarily a bad thing. Both of you have the possibility to do better, clearing opportunity for the PERFECT ONE FOR YOU to come into your life. Take note that I said "perfect for you" not "perfect person". No one is perfect but some people just FIT together.
Below are lyrics from a song but they're all too familiar in everyday conversation. I cannot tell you the amount of times I've heard something like this and I will admit, I have succumb to it in the past. ("She Can't Love You" by Destiny's Child)
Could we all agree that looking behind takes the focus off of moving ahead? I think we could. So why stay focused on the Ex and their new "Boo"? They've moved on and so should you! Don't get me wrong, a broken or bruised heart needs time to heal and that's the reason you should NEVER jump right into another relationship after a breakup. Spend that time learning more about yourself, going after dreams, planning your life, finishing things you've started, reconnecting with family and friends, etc. If you don't do any of this you run the risk of looking pathetic, dependent and lost BUT you're stronger than that!
It's true some of us really do need Boyfriend/Girlfriend Rehabilitation Services... There might be an app for that! (haha)
After you get the 'app' and have begun to heal its time to let go of them, both your Ex and the unhealthy obsession with the new love interest. Take time to evaluate the relationship you had. What was the good you would like to keep and enjoy in another relationship? What was the bad that you will not and cannot accept? What did you bring to the table and what can you now bring to the table (after you've had time to yourself- being a BETTER YOU)? Lastly, what are some things you expect your future mate to bring to the table? (Keep in mind, people have faults so expecting absolute perfection is ludicrous).
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It's a bit early but it dawned on me that my birthday is FAST approaching! Before I know it, I'll be (muffles mouth) !$@;t%* years old... Ehem, I mean young!
I've always said that I'd be that woman who proudly states her age even at 100- I still stand by that statement buuut by nature I've come to an age of evaluation. I find myself sitting and thinking about my accomplishments, dreams I thought would come true by now- some have changed and others replaced. I'm a woman so I can't help but think about whether I will have children or not. Marriage? Haha! Wait, was that out loud? Oh well, sometimes you just have to laugh at yourself.
I ask myself sometimes "have you done all you've wanted?" It would be nice if I got an answer but the silence tells me that I've stressed for no apparent reason! My life has just begun! I was tripping all the way out. I have time as long as God gives me breath. So dreams and visions will become true!
All the rest, like a husband and babies, well, let's wait and see shall we? I'm in no rush. Until then, like my mother says [insert Caribbean accent here] "free paper not burn!" (Meaning: I do not have any life changing responsibilities.) ;)
Now back to your regularly scheduled program...
It was late last night that I thought about how much I love travel. Why? It's the excitement of seeing some place new on God's green earth! I've never pegged myself as an adventurer BUT I guess I am, somewhat. My desire is to travel around the world and visit ALMOST every country, let's face it, not all countries have a touristy atmosphere right now. Aside from that, this wanderlust inside of me wakes me up in the morning begging to be satisfied. I love my country and state and all of that, however, culture calls!
I miss the whir of propellers telling me I'm moments away from new and unforgettable experiences. The bird's eye view of the community, state, country, land, sea and sky- in that order- excites all of my senses.
Enough talk, time to make some plans so I could add photos and great anecdotes to the Story of My Life.
I refuse to have a Bucket List, seems too morbid a task- counting things down one by one before you die?! No thanks, I will do a Life Experience List. Pretty self-explanatory, yes? No? Okay, my list will include things I want to experience and be enriched from and by not merely "do"; that's how you build a Life Experience List.
I have quite a lot of places I'd like to visit and indulge in but I still need suggestions. What are some things you all think I should experience? Cultures I should learn about? Eh, I'm nervous to ask you about food... I love new and exciting deliciousness BUT I draw the line at raw formerly alive creatures and insect/bug type things. That being said... Let 'er rip, suggest away people!
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(Below are pics of my previous travels. As you can see I love the tropics but I want new adventure!)
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